Not only should children learn how to pick up their room or do their chores, they should also be taught to do so without being told. Discipline affects all areas of life. Living a life free from self-discipline means lots of wasted time, money and effort. If children can’t be trusted not to blow their allowance on a pound of bubble gum, how can they be trusted with a large sum of money later in life? Teaching your children to have discipline in all areas of life means they will be able to save money and find a job where they can be successful.
Another trait that should be taught is responsibility. Being responsible means more than just not doing bad things. It means doing what you know is right even when there is no immediate reward. With so much immediate gratification around them, teaching delayed gratification can be a hard thing to do. However, being responsible means that your child will be able to grow up to be a respected and admired adult with many opportunities.
Often overlooked in the business world, empathy for others means your child will be a well-rounded individual. If you cannot have a love for others, you cannot form real, lasting relationships. Financial success does not compensate for a lack of real relationships with other people. Having your children volunteer their time for others can help them learn these skills early on.
Please and thank you never go out of style. To get along in this world, your children must know manners. Even in an era of text messages and informality, it still pays to be polite.
Both self-respect and respect for others is vital in children. If children do not learn self-respect, they will allow others to bully them and force them into situations beyond their control. Respecting authority is also important. Though those in authority may not always be right that does not mean they should not be respected. If children do not learn respect at home then they will learn it from outside – either through failing classes, police, or job loss.
Being mindful of others and not self-centered pays off big time. Even in large corporations, you will find that it is not the smartest people that succeed but rather those with a willingness to work hard and help others. Being mindful of others means that the child will help someone carry a heavy load or pick up dropped objects. As they grow older, helpfulness means they will help out in projects, make new friends and make lasting connections. What comes around goes around, as they say.
What is the number one most powerful characteristic? Confidence! Teaching your children to be confident is the best way to help them get ahead in life. Confident people get picked for the best jobs, they get the best assignments and they draw others to them. In business and in personal life, confidence gets rewarded.
8. Public speaking –
Most people fear public speaking. Despite this, there are many times any one person will be called on to speak in front of a group- large or small. Start teaching your children how to speak in public from a young age, including talking to older people, younger people and people their own age. By teaching them that it is okay to make mistakes and learn from them--even in front of a group--you can help them overcome their fear and learn to be confident even in
Since most communication takes place over email and other written forms, it is only sensible to teach your children how to write well. More than the A B Cs, teaching children how to write starts at home. As you read with them point out things like tone, literary devices, verb usage and so on. There are many ways you can teach children to become powerful writers. Share your own experiences and help them to learn how writing works outside an academic setting.
Last but not least is reading. With all the information online, you need to give your children the ability not only to read with comprehension, but to ascertain what is valid and invalid in each area of study. Helping your children to become strong, smart readers means you can give them the skills to avoid ploys and scams that are rampant on the internet. Talk to children about what real information looks like and reads like. Show them how to scan for important parts rather than reading the whole thing. Then help them to read with understanding and to look up things they don’t understand.
These are only a few of the ways you can help to prepare your child to become a strong and smart adult. Form strong relationships with your children. Share your experiences to help them become the kind of adult you can be proud of.
Rachel is an ex-babysitting pro as well as a professional writer and blogger. She is a graduate from Iowa State University and currently writes for www.babysitting.net. She welcomes questions/comments which can be sent to rachelthomas.author @gmail.com.