There are plenty of these in life. The classic example is that you can’t get a job without experience, and you can’t get experience without a job.
Here are some others you might have run across:
- You can’t get a job without an education, but you can’t afford to pay for tuition and child care without a job.
- You can’t go to work without feeling guilty, but you feel guilty about staying home.
- You go to work because you can’t pay the mortgage, but the second income increases your taxes so much that you’re bringing home the same or even less than before.
- Your child is sick, so you work in order to get the medical insurance your self-employed husband can’t provide. But your child’s needs require constant care, which you can’t give him while you’re working.
- You earn too much to qualify for any kind of government assistance, but not enough to pay for your child’s autism therapy.
So here are some suggestions for when you feel caught in a hopeless situation.
- Think about what you want, not the obstacles to getting there (take away the “yeah, but”). Write your goals down.
- Look for a role model of someone who’s done it before. This person, whether you know them in real life or not, can give you encouragement and practical advice. Find an online mentor if necessary.
- Confide in someone else. A listening ear can help you feel better, but also might be able to see more clearly than you with their outside perspective.
- Tell your contacts what you’re trying to achieve. You might be surprised at what expertise others have that can lead you to resources you haven’t thought of.
- Pray. Meditate. Read inspirational stuff. Moments of clarity often come in quiet moments.