I don’t hear the acronym thrown around anymore these days, but the phenomenon still occurs (I recently heard it called “the wife scholarship"). I’ve heard plenty of stories, both now and while I was in school, about women dropping out of college while their husbands finish their degrees.
Today, there are many more creative variations on this theme than there used to be. I was pretty close to finishing my bachelor’s when I met my husband, for example, so by the time we were married, all I had left was the last half of my thesis. I had thought about graduate school, but I also wanted a break from school for a while. I worked a couple of low-wage jobs (not at the same time) while my husband finished his last year of his bachelor’s degree (he didn’t want a master’s), but my bachelor’s degree was already done.
Here are some other variations I’ve heard:
- Husband and wife take turns putting each other through
- Both go to school and work at the same time
- Relying on student loans and/or scholarships
- Husband and/or wife going to school part-time
- One spouse delaying schooling for a few years, then going back later
So here’s my question: Did you drop out of college or get less education than you intended in order to support your spouse? Was that because you felt it was the best thing at the time or did you feel pressured (by your spouse, your parents, your in-laws, your church, or the culture) to give up your own ambitions? And last, do you have regrets or do you think it worked out for the best?