Even if you have a generous employer who will give you some time off when you've got a personal crisis in your life, it may not be enough. And that can be a problem when you need the money to live. I'm not just referring to a death, either. There are lots of things that can happen in your personal life to make work difficult.
I haven't figured out any solutions yet. I just do what I can from day to day. Personally, this is the first day I've had the energy to think about blogging, care about blogging, and actually blog. Sometimes, those three tasks are just too overwhelming for me. And even when I've been able to return to other tasks I used to do, I'm often not 100% there. It takes so much more energy to focus and to concentrate than it used to. It often takes me twice as long to get something done, and multitasking is a thing of the past.
As much as I am a proponent of policies that help families, I don't know if you can write a policy for this one. Grieving (whatever the loss may be) takes time, and everyone goes through it differently. So all I can say is this: Bosses, don't be jerks. Co-workers, be understanding. Grieving people, be kind to yourself and explain your situation as much as you need to so that others can be patient with you.
So if you're going through some upheaval in your life, I would imagine your way of dealing with work is different than someone else's. Right now, I'm trying to figure out the best way to fill my days. If you have any tips on how to deal with your everyday life while your personal/family life is difficult, please share. I could use all the help I can get!